Recently I had this beautiful conversation with my friend Anamika, and she led me to this discovery. It was such a revelation, such a thrilling discovery that I am continously playing with it, experimenting. Thought of sharing with everybody.
The thought is... Have Confidence in your ideas, thoughts. In a deep conversation, when a person is listening to somebody, he/she (They) tend not to listen completely, and one of the reasons is they are afraid. They are afraid that the other person's thoughts/ideas are so strong, that it will replace their own thoughts, ideas. So in a bid to battle it out, they tend not to listen completely. They spend half of the time clinging to own thoughts, attaching emotionally to it, defending their ideas and eventually missing out on the opposite person'sviews/ opinions/ thoughts and ideas. This results in arguments, conflicts and heartburns, bitter experiences.
Have you experienced it?
It is possible to listen completely? Is it possible to be with other person's thought completely, with out losing out on your ideas?
Yes. And that is what Anamika taught me the other day.
She said, if you are confident about your thought, if you believe in your thought, 100%, then stop clinging to it while listening to others. If your ideas/thoughts/opinions are stronger than the others' thoughts, then it will CERTAINLY stay with you. Start paying attention to the thought/idea. Be with it, completely absorb it. Analyse it, question it and then check if its really good?
When you do this, you'll realise that you are paying complete attention to the person, being with the thought and completely listening.
Believe me, It is such a pleasure to be in that state! Believe it only after experiencing it! :D
Then I thought, What if the other thoughts are stronger than mine? Then accept it. Let your weak thoughts go away. Between ego and strength, I know I will eventually choose strength. Why? Becuase I want to be with stronger thoughts, I want to be strong!
Is this not Humility? Wow!
Confidence lies in humility in accepting the truth! Another realisation for me! Hahahahha
To be honest, I also think this confidence on your thoughts is like TRUE LOVE. If your love is truly your's, if your thoughts are really strong, it will come to you, they'll stay with you, .
Is confidence also love? Is it loving your thoughts?
Is this another realisation? LOL
Think about it and let me know your thoughts. If they are stronger, let them replace my thoughts! :)
5 comments:
Hey Vijay, i never knew that our conversations can be so beautiful and deep when written, deeper than what we realised during the discussion. I call our conversations 'Rewarding Revelations'. Talk about learning and it keeps on opening like a multifold mystery. Its like a whirlpool of thoughts logically coming to your mind making so much sense that you never knew it would.
Reading your blog was a learning treat. I call it a lavish spread for a mind hungry for learning. It re-emphasized the fact that we learn something new from each other every time we communicate. Today your blog revealed to me the power of expression once again. Sometimes we believe it, we follow it, we say it too, but when we read it, it seems to give us a strange kind of immense positive energy. Thats what your blog gave to me today Vijay. You had once asked me to start writing blogs. I never took it seriously, your blog is pulling me towards it. Thanks a lot! I treasure having you in my life...My dearest pal..
Love - Ana
All I can say is our thoughts and ideas are like delusion. It reminds of what a famous author Christian Nestell Bovee once said "No man is happy without a delusion of some kind. Delusions are as necessary to our happiness as realities."
Hey Anonymous
Could you elaborate your comment further?
Ideas are delusion of mind.Turn your ideas into reality, you will find the answer to it.
Is this what you mean by delusion?
A delusion is commonly defined as a fixed false belief and is used in everyday language to describe a belief that is either false, fanciful or derived from deception. In psychiatry, the definition is necessarily more precise and implies that the belief is pathological (the result of an illness or illness process). As a pathology it is distinct from a belief based on false or incomplete information or certain effects of perception which would more properly be termed an apperception or illusion.
Delusions typically occur in the context of neurological or mental illness, although they are not tied to any particular disease and have been found to occur in the context of many pathological states (both physical and mental). However, they are of particular diagnostic importance in psychotic disorders and particularly in schizophrenia and mania in episodes of bipolar disorder.
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